Richard Mahler Mediation and Therapy

Empowering choices when life changes.

Holding space for healing and growth.



I am a specialist family law mediator, child-inclusive mediator, registered Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (FDRP), and Nationally Accredited Mediator (NMAS).

I only mediate family law disputes.

As a family therapist and child consultant, my child-inclusive mediation (CIM) services utilise my dual qualifications and experience in law and psychology. I also issue Section 60I Certificates and Certificates of Dispute Resolution under the Family Law Act (1975) (Cth) as required by the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia. I embrace the principles of neutrality, professionalism, and confidentiality.

I have worked with hundreds of families over the past two decades to facilitate the best possible outcomes for those involved.



I am an individual, relationship, family and co-parenting counsellor and psychotherapist. I am registered with the Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA) (Provisional 27503).

My relationship therapy combines reflections with communication skills. My co-parenting therapy involves blending my expertise in both family law mediation and psychotherapy to support separated couples with developing respectful parenting relationships free from aggression, coercion, and control.

My therapy practice is trauma-informed with a Gestalt approach, drawing upon existential, experiential, and psychodynamic techniques. I also bring warmth and humour to co-create a client-focused healing and growth experience.


5 Tips when facing relationship breakdown

Get Good Legal Advice

Once you’re sure that separation is only way forward, then get legal advice from a lawyer specialising in family law matters as soon as possible. Your rights and obligations can change very quickly after separation, so it’s important to get the right advice early.

Consider Counselling

Many people find that the grass isn’t greener after separation, so try relationship counselling if domestic violence isn’t an issue. Improved communication skills and greater understanding of you and your partner’s needs and triggers can save many relationships. Many relationship issues can trace their roots to each individual’s attachment style developed in early childhood (and sometimes in long-term adult relationships).

Stay Safe

There’s no place for abuse or neglect in relationships. Domestic violence is any ongoing behaviour that causes fear or anxiety in someone to exert power and control over them. Get immediate support if your relationship is marred by such violence. It isn’t appropriate to get relationship counselling if domestic violence is present.

Protect Your Children

There will often be anger and pain associated with relationship breakdown. Process this with a confidante or therapist. Your children love both of you, so don’t denigrate your partner to them, or involve them in any parental conflict. Research clearly indicates that children exposed to excessive parental conflict are at greater risk of developing life-long issues such as emotional, social and behavioural problems, having difficulties with concentration and educational achievement, and having a reduced sense of safety and security affecting their relationships with others.

Separate Respectfully

When going through a separation it’s common for emotions to fly high at times. Avoid falling into immature behaviour reflecting the deep pain you’re feeling. It’s not a competition. There aren’t any winners. So get therapy for the pain, and separate respectfully. Your mental, emotional, and physical health will benefit greatly. If there are children of the relationship, the greatest protective factor you can offer them is to be as amicable and respectful as reasonably possible with the other parent and avoid conflict in front of the children.


My firm has engaged the services of Richard in a number of complex parenting and property matters.

Given his background in family law, and as a psychotherapist, he has been able to provide a unique and specialised perspective in assisting parties resolve issues that have arisen in their relationships and following separation. That assistance in parenting matters has extended to, on occasions, a child inclusive process which clients have found beneficial in reaching positive and child focused outcomes for their family.

He provides excellent value and clients have consistently informed me that they appreciate his insight and assistance in resolving their matters and allowing them to move forward with their life with certainty.

As a former family lawyer, Richard is adept at understanding the intricacies involved in navigating a resolution to help clients avoid litigation, wherever possible.

Richard’s ability to quickly build rapport with clients and put them at ease is invaluable, particularly in complex parenting matters.  Clients have repeatedly reported to me that Richard’s objectivity and child centric approach has enabled them to remain child focused in the midst of what can sometimes be an emotionally charged experience.

Richard is an exceptional mediator and has successfully mediated a number of matters in which our firm has been involved over a number of years.

He brings a clear understanding of the intricacies of Family Law and a deep understanding of clients’ needs. In my experience, he is highly adaptive in his approach and handles both property and parenting matters with equal expertise. His background in counselling, therapy and behavioural science makes him a particularly good choice in my view for high-conflict matters, or matters where one or both parties have adopted an entrenched position.

I have no hesitation in recommending Richard.

Richard has mediated a number of family disputes for me. His genuine compassion and empathy for people involved in these disputes helps achieve an outcome which would not otherwise be achieved.

He meets the parties’ needs to keep them focused on resolution. He is committed and engaged for the full duration of the mediation. He reality tests both parties to maximise the prospects of matters realistically resolving. He is calm, methodical, and very patient.

I recommend him highly.